Grandmaster Kim honoring his mother at her resting place in Seoul, Korea, December, 2002.
Grandmaster Kim and his family honoring the memory of his mother at his home in Houston, Texas, January 15, 2003.
|Roots of Honor
by Joseph Sullins, 4th Dan, Houston
I remember something my grandfather told me one time while we were fishing. I commented on a tree near the lake. Look at that great tree over there. It is so tall and has such huge branches. He remarked, without looking up, That tree would never have grown so tall if it did not have strong roots. This is true of all things. No one knows this better than Grand Master Kim Soo.
He has been honored for his lifes achievements. And there have been many. But he would have never of been the man that he is without the nurturing from someone special. This person was his mother, Duk In Lee.
Duk In Lee had a hard life. She was born and raised in the country. She was from a poor noble family, Yang Ban. In early Korea there were five classes of people. Yang Ban was the second highest class. This was an environment of hard work and poverty. She married Grand Master Kims father, who was financially well off and from the city. During the Japanese occupation of Korea, all economic positions were controlled by Japan. Those Koreans who were educated were forced to seek employment through the military. He became a Japanese army officer and a pharmacist. It was common for wealthy men to marry a country girl. She was to take care of the house and the family much like a maid-wife relationship. Extra marital affairs were common in these households and it was no different at the Kims house.
This environment did not nurture a healthy home life. Grand Master Kim was the youngest of five children. The oldest son was a major discipline problem. He spent most of his time drunk and threatening his family with a samurai sword. After Japans occupation, there were a lot of swords available in Korea. Grand Master Kim also had three older sisters. They were very dominant toward young Kim Soo. This feminine environment coupled with their constant bullying was resulting in problems of poor self-esteem.
To make matters worse, young Kim skipped a grade in school. This made him an object of bullying as well. He was younger and therefore smaller than the other boys in his grade. He was a cute boy with a baby face and was picked on by every bully at school. This reinforced the poor self-esteem problem. He walked around with his head down, never making eye contact and developed a stuttering problem.
His mother could see that her favorite child needed some help. She knew that there was nothing positive for him to learn at home. He needed some kind of formal training to learn the lessons necessary to win lifes battles. She decided that martial arts was what he needed.
He began his training under the supervision of a neighbor. This training was unstructured and inadequate for the needs of young Kim Soo. So he joined a karate school and began his formal training. As with most children, his need for training and his desire to play with his friends came into conflict. He began trying to skip class. His mother would have none of that. She would insist that he attend class, hand him his uniform and send him on his way. Grand Master Kim acknowledges without a doubt that if his mother had not been so insistent he would have quit. His internal enemies were stronger than he was at that age but not stronger than his mother.
Grand Master Kim characterizes his mother as:
Very intelligent although with little formal education
Believed in karma
Believed in the next life would be better
She would travel into the mountains and pray for KONG for young Kim Soo. She taught him that life is a blank page. You have to write on it yourself. You have to design a step-by-step plan to achieve your lifes dream. He gained his mental and physical strength, under the guidance of his mother, from the DOJANG.
Duk In Lee was an acupuncturist. She visited Houston, Texas in 1970. There
were very few Koreans in Houston at that time. She had no one her own
age with whom to socialize or even talk. This made the adjustment here
very difficult. So, she returned to Korea. A year later she returned and
tried to adjust at Grand Master Kims request. While she was here
she administered acupuncture to a couple students. Shirley Yanta hurt
her knee at a Rice University demo. The knee was swollen very badly and
the physician on hand said that there was nothing that could be done.
Duk In Lee took over and drained the blood from the knee and the knee
was back to its normal condition in a couple days. She also treated Mr.
Leo Lob for allergy problems that had bothered him for years. Unfortunately
she only stayed a few months, again bothered by loneliness. America
is like heaven, No fun
.Korea is like hell, Lots of fun. She
returned to Korea and remained until her death in 1976.
Duk In Lee with Mr. Leo Lob treating him with acupuncture
lunar calendar January 15th he celebrates the memory of his mother. Asian
tradition declares that the oldest son should conduct a formal ceremony
to honor his mothers memory. The oldest son came into conflict with
this Buddhist tradition when he became a Christian. The ceremonies became
inconsistent and upon his death ceased completely. Tradition states that
if performed by a younger son it would bring misfortune. Grand Master
Kim did not believe this to be true. He was extremely thankful for his
mothers guidance and insisted upon continuing this honoring tradition
for his mother. He burns incense, gives a glass of water and bows with
great respect. He continues this tradition to this day
This tradition is being passed on to his son, Sean and his granddaughter,
Sydney, a tradition of respect and never forgetting from where they came.
Whenever Grand Master Kim needs counseling or is battling a physical problem he calls on his mother for guidance. He will meditate or just speak to her with the knowledge that she is always listening. She always answers him through inspiration and dreams. The answers just come.
Greatness always comes from strong roots.
On December 25, 2002 Grand Master Kim visited his mothers grave
at Moran Park Cemetery in Korea. Grand Master Kim would like to express
his gratitude to Master Yu, our Korean branch school representative, for
preparing the grave site for his ceremony of respect. He had placed a
very nice blanket on the ground and supplied incense, candle, fruit and
ceremonial wine. It had been snowing that day. Grand Master Kim is holding
a copy of his Russian Cha Yon Ryu Tae Kwon Do book that he dedicated to
Grand Master Byung In Yoon and his mother. Above are pictures of the event.